Join us February-April 2025

"I have chosen to be happy because it's good for my health."

YOUR ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT

Anxiously attached people often face intense, painful anxiety in relationships. For instance, if someone you’re dating doesn’t reply quickly, you might be overwhelmed with fear and start doubting their feelings for you. Next you're overreacting, becoming clingy or demanding, which you don't want because it pushes them away, but you can't help it! The struggle to manage your emotions is a constant issue and it's stopping you from having a relationship. 

Or imagine your partner is being quieter than usual, and you’re sure they’re upset with you. You feel on edge & can't concentrate, obsessively seeking reassurance or withdrawing emotionally. Again, you do know this isn't 'normal' but can't help it. It's creating tension and drives a wedge between you, making it impossible to connect in a healthy way. 

Anxious attachers lose themselves in love, this is your chance to reclaim & hold on to yourself 

PROBLEMS YOU'RE FACING:

• You get into states of panic and feel out of control when your anxious attachment is triggered
• You become overly attached on someone else for your happiness, worth, and even sense of safety (feeling OK!).
• You feel rejected and unworthy easily - especially in comparison to someone's family, ex, or friends.
• If the person you like is away or out of contact, you really lose yourself. Especially at night time.
• You get triggered quickly & easily even when you know it's not worth it
• You know a lot about attachment styles & self-soothing but struggling to regulate yourself in the moment
• Jealousy and comparison is an issue for you in romantic relationships. You might have an obsession with a specific person (like an ex) or more generally (other women/men)
• You struggle to control overthinking, analysing, investigating, ruminating, worrying etc
• You feel like you can't enjoy when things are good because you become so distracted by your worry
• You struggle to communicate; you might say what you want when drunk, as an outburst, or when things end.
• You often get into relationships that come with the same issues, perhaps they are unavailable or you get bored/annoyed easily.
• If you’re in a relationship your thoughts surround not being important, never being chosen, not being good enough, or them leaving
• If you’re single your thoughts surround being alone, feeling different, never being chosen, and obsessing over and ex or someone new.
• You still see yourself changing your plans or holding off to make them “just in case”