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Carly Ann is a qualified Somatic Attachment Coach 

Are ready to heal attachment trauma?

Are you committed  to compassionately healing and dealing with the fall out of attachment wounds as an adult?

The attachment Recovery Gym is an online membership (think of it like any other gym) for people wanting to take action with their healing.

If you’re ready to take charge of your healing, each month we use a combination of meditation, somatic therapy, and cognitive tools to help you heal attachment wounds.

Imagine one year from now, having committed to The Attachment Recovery Gym… What epic change do you see in your life?

I'm In

"Carly Ann fully embodies the tools & practices she talks about, it is such a relief to be guided by someone who is clearly passionate and knows how we feel as people also on a journey to becoming more secure. The membership is full and there unlike many other courses, it is more about the practice than what is in the books "

Current Member

"I can definitely say I would not be in the relationship I am now if it wasn't for Carly Ann and the membership. I dedicated myself fully to this membership and with Carly Ann's support it hasn't felt hard. I have to give a special shout out to the sharing circles because I know that is where I found my voice"

Current Member


For the longest time, my anxious attachment style (+ avoidant tendencies) had me feeling so trapped in a cycle of obsession, worry, and emotional turmoil, especially in my dating life. I fell quick, and I feel hard - only to watch myself chase after people who couldn't see me, leaving my self-worth, dignity, and happiness on the floor.

In relationships, I struggled to self-soothe and trusting the process seemed impossible. It was a constant battle, a rollercoaster of highs and lows that left me exhausted and unfulfilled - Always so quick to jump to conclusions and expect the worst.

Heartbreak was undoubtedly the toughest part of my journey - it was a storm of emotions that left me shattered on the floor. I would become hyper-focused on someone, replaying every moment, every word, and constantly questioning what went wrong and how I could change to make them stay. No contact felt like an impossible feat, I longed for them and validation to fill the void within me. It was during these moments of despair that I knew the urgency of my healing and the need to break free from this cycle for good.



One day, I had a moment of clarity. I woke up to the fact that I didn't truly know my own worth. My self-esteem was at an all-time low, and after some deep soul-searching, I realized the source of my struggles—an anxious attachment style with avoidant tendencies.

The journey was tough, bumpy, and at times, lonely. There was so much information scattered across different places, but I craved support, motivation, and change. I was willing to do whatever it took to transform my life.

I came to understand that focusing on others and obsessing over them was not the way to heal. I needed to focus on myself, treat my emotional well-being like a gym, and exercise the skills that would help me become secure in my attachments.

Today, I'm delighted to share that my transformation has been nothing short of incredible. I treated my emotional growth with the same dedication as a physical workout regimen, and it paid off. Now, I'm not only secure in my attachments, but I'm also helping others on their journey towards emotional security.

If you're ready to break free from anxious (+ avoidant) attachment, just as I did, you're in the right place. Join me and a community  on the journey, and together we'll rewrite the story of your relationships and rediscover the incredible worth that lies within you.



Introducing The Attachment Recovery Gym



A unique membership for people that are ready to meet their most SECURE self.


This online gym is ideal if you fall into these anxious and/or avoidant patterns:


  • You find that once you are upset, it is extremely difficult to calm down
  • You become anxious, agitated, or scared by relationship triggers, rejection, conflicts, or a last minute change of plans
  • You can feel inconsolable when you are apart from your partner or the person you are loving right now
  • You can struggle to reflect and stick to your "self-soothing plan"
  • Attachments, rejection, and dating can interfere with you ability to function, focus, and socialise.
  • You are often chasing an avoidant partner, putting lovers on a pedestal, or setting for bread crumbs
  • You find yourself testing your partner or waiting for them to make the first move to reach out or resolve conflict
  • You withdraw intentionally or unintentionally by sulking, ignoring, or going quiet


  • You can find it difficult to rely on or connect with others for long periods of time
  • You can become agitated or annoyed when someone seems "too much" or interrupting your personal time
  • You notice you will purposely hold yourself back in love and question other people's intentions with you
  • You may struggle to reflect on emotions due to feeling numb, blank, or detached
  • You tend to recall negatives about your partner or date, especially if you feel triggered
  • You might notice you can go from being interested in someone to suddenly losing that initial spark ("ick")
  • You tend to start fights, sabotage, and push people away (or pull away) when things are going well
  • You pull away from physical intimacy and may even find their attempts to be "needy"

Tired of Repeating Relationship Patterns?


Is the reality of your life right now that you are learning about attachment styles & how to become more secure, yet when it comes down to it, you are abandoning yourself, getting hugely triggered, and falling into the same undesirable habits?

You're probably fed up by now? You've got enough awareness and insight to know this cycle is more about you than anyone else, and it's only you that can set yourself free. 

Letting go and emerging into your higher Self is feeling impossible when it comes to that one person, that agonising fear, or that specific behaviour.

Right now, we both know you have a huge, genuine desire to heal, but it's likely:

  • You find yourself feeling overwhelmed, confused, and even resistant to all the education and tools that surround the process of attachment & relationship recovery
  • Or you are not setting aside the time & energy that is necessary for the inner work & healing
  • Or you are constantly seeking out new tools & strategies to solve your relationship & self-esteem difficulties (without mastering what you know).




The Attchment Recovery Gym


An online membership to help you exercise your most Secure SELF.

 For people doing the inner work on healing the past & becoming more secure.

Say goodbye to losing yourself in love, putting everyone else on a pedestal, and feeling powerless to your emotions & attachment triggers.





STAYING connected to the relationship that matters most

My intentions for the Attachment Recovery Gym are:

  • To help you carve out the time where you put yourself first & exercise your Self-compassionate & Secure muscles.
  • To easily connect you with the KEY elements & practices needed to heal from your past & build secure attachment
  • To have self-soothing practices you can access immediately 
  • To support you where you feel stuck through the power of habits & accountability 


This time, it's time. We become secure when we peel back the layers of who we have become, and allow ourselves to be someone with healthy self-esteem.

Monthly Workshop

Workshops dedicated to self-devotion, re-connection, & enriching your healing process. You will experience a perfect combination of reflection, goal setting, & education to create your own breakthroughs. As with all of our classes, you will tap into your Secure self and exercise coming home to your body so that you can navigate whatever you are facing in your real, daily life with grace & compassion. 

Daily & Weekly Practices


A 15 minute daily routine that includes a combination of focusing, reviewing, & planning to help you connect with your Secure Self regularly. This class is especially useful if you have a recurring trigger, habit, and difficulty staying in the present. We will start with a 5 minute practice that supports regulation and building self-esteem, followed by completing the daily attachment diary.


Weekly Q&A & Wins

Each week Carly Ann will place a Q&A box in the community group, you are encouraged to use your voice and read other members' questions. It’s a chance to be coached and listened to. This is the kind of class you might dismiss, however it is extremely powerful to connect with others and seek support with your specific situation.

Guest Experts

Join in with our guest expert classes to support your healing & happiness.

These classes will always have a focus on healing relational and attachment wounds.

Monthly Support Circle


A 60-90 minute Class dedicated to practicing vulnerability, communication, & giving/receiving support . Here members are invited to gather in a sacred circle to share what’s on your mind and seek support from people that understand you. You will have the opportunity to share or listen - both are incredibly important practices and play a huge part in building your secure skillset.

How this Class Exercises Secure Self:  Voicing your needs & co-regulation is a skill we must teach ourselves as adults, practicing in a non-judgmental environment means you are more likely to bring this to other relationships that mean a lot to you.

Shared Learning

When you sign up, you will have immediate access to a library of resources & replays. Re-parenting classes to teach what you always deserved to know. Classes to help you practice what you already know. Struggle to find the time to practice what you are learning from your coach or from your favourite attachment instagram? This is you chance to make it happen.




Tell Me More about Attachment Recovery Gym


A unique membership for people that are ready to learn and take action on healing attachment wounds.

Think of this as a healing gym. Inside this gym we are already exercising our mind-set, secure attachment, and ability to make great choices.

There are members from all around the world reporting the gym has changed their lives, and we want to help you too.


👉 Daily Activation & Embodiment classes 

👉 Healing & Relaxation Meditations you can access 24/7

👉 Practical Somatic Classes for anxiety, low mood, anger, and the challenges we face

👉 Guest Expert episodes on topics that support better relationships & secure attachment

👉 Mindfulness Practices

👉 Mindset Hacks & Manifesting

👉 Each day & week, there are arranged classes that are designed based on effective & successful attachment focused therapy.


When you sign up you will be sent to a hub that has more details, resources, masterclasses, guest experts, and the schedule for the month.

  👉 You can leave the membership whenever feels good for you, you are definitely not tied into a contract.

I'm in, sign me up

Join in with Our Daily Classes & Attachment Diary


LIVE OR REPLAY, Join one of the most popular classes inside the Attachment Recovery Gym! Join whenever you like, just like a gym!


"Daily classes help me ground myself and give me a boost for the rest of the day."

"On replay 💖 loved the 5 word meditation"

"This was amazing, so releasing and just what I needed. Carly, I suspect you might be an angel walking the earth 😉🤍"

"Wow, I am so glad I am watching this today. When I saw the signs of trying to meet your needs almost every single one of them applied to my relationship. This makes so much more sense."





❌  It might not be for you if you have never heard of attachment styles

❌  It's not for you if you cannot make the time to engage

❌  If you are not interested in mindfulness, joy, slower living - you will likely struggle with this

❌ If you are hoping we can tell you how to get your ex back or get into the head of an avoidant lover - we can't do that

❌ If you don't like online events it won't be for you

❌ It's not for you if you are looking for a replacement to therapy/coaching



Carly Ann

I'm an Attachment Coach and I've been on my own attachment journey for many years. I know what it is like to be where you are now. Over the years I watched my relationship anxiety play out in the most painful scenarios - despite the fact I knew better and I WAS working on myself. I was still making some of the worst choices & behaving in ways I am not proud of.



Live & on-demand classes that are designed to keep you accountable and on track when it comes to your own healing journey.

We will be connecting with our most secure selves and re-parenting ourselves to feel safe, secure, happy, and content with where we are I our lives.

Sign up today if you desire to:

  • Broaden & use up-to-date attachment healing methods
  • Learn to pause & self-soothe before reacting
  • Meet people that get you and feel similar to you when it comes to relationships
  • Do the inner work focused on a specific habit & pattern 
  • Become more vulnerable and emotionally available
  • Build your self-esteem & feel more confident in your own needs & boundaries
  • Have healthy Self-Esteem & stick to self-care habits
  • Break the cycle of drama, shame, & self-loathing 


"I love the support from everyone - the advice I got from other members & Carly Ann has helped me to feel less triggered about being 'left behind', I feel less alone and more in love with myself than ever because of this membership and that is what I truly needed"

Current Member

"The membership saved me at a time when I felt so hopeless. I was pushing my parter away and losing who I was. The membership connected me back to my Secure Self (that I had forgotten) and for that I am forever grateful. I left the membership when the time felt right but I already miss the support circles that Carly creates inside"

Past Member


Each Month We Are Joined by Erika Owls

Join London'd Elite Psychic Mentor, Erika Owls.  𝐒𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐚 𝐜𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐌𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐏𝐬𝐲𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐜 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐒𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐢 𝐑𝐨𝐲 𝐊𝐲𝐨𝐬𝐡𝐢-𝐆𝐨𝐲𝐚, 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐞𝐧𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐝 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐠𝐢𝐟𝐭𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐥 𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲, 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭 𝐠𝐮𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐥𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐯𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐮𝐬 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐩𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐞𝐬. 𝐄𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐠𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐟𝐞𝐥𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐚𝐟𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐦𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡.

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Receive Direct Support from The Compatibility Coach

Caitlin AKA The Compatibility Coach is a life & love coach who works with people to change how love feels and create happy, healthy relationships, with themselves and others. As a former serial dater and relationship nightmare (and now a wife), it's Caitlin's mission to help women go from feeling (as she did at one point) unlovable, disempowered and desperate to meet someone, to irresistible and content.



If you feel like you have read all the books and watched all the things on attachment theory, self-love, and becoming your best self, but you're still going round in circles and repeating the same, tired patterns...

The gym is for you.


If you need some foundations and drive to actually practice what you know,

The gym is for you.










  • Access to library of Attachment Support
  • Monthly Masterclass & Q&A
  • Daily Diary for Attachment Wounds
  • Monthly Somatic Attachment Classes each month
  • Monthly Romance Reading
  • Access to Community
  • Guest Experts
  • Short Courses, Resources, & Healing Meditations




  • Access to library of Attachment Support
  • Monthly Masterclass & Q&A
  • Daily Diary for Attachment Wounds
  • Monthly Somatic Attachment Class
  • Monthly Romance Reading 
  • Access to Community
  • Guest Experts
  • Short Courses, Resources, & Healing Meditations 


If you aren’t completely satisfied when you login to the GYM, you can send an email within 24 hours of joining and get a full refund.