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Becoming Secure

 

A therapeutic programme for adults ready to reparent themselves, heal old wounds, and develop the skills to create fulfilling relationships they never had growing up

This is especially for you if you struggle to feel the change, get out of your head, or shake that anxious mood no matter how much you understand what’s wrong.

 

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"Joining Becoming Secure It felt like a brilliant investment in my own mental wellbeing. Dating is hard enough, when you have an anxious attachment style, it can feel impossible. After this programme, I feel like I have the tools to be more successful at dating and I have come away with more determination than I have had in a long time to continue looking for love and hold onto hope of finding the right person"

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"Saying yes to Becoming Secure was my best decision! I very nearly said no but I had tried everything! By far the best results are that I’m less reactive and have more control! I can control my anxiety when I’m waiting for that text or I’m in the unknown - that’s changed me! I’m a lot less self critical and that means I’m happier, which means my relationship has a LOT less drama! couldn’t ask for more! Thank you!"

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Does This Sound Like You?

 

  • You spend so much time worrying, overthinking, & obsessing, your missing out on the present moment
  • You picture your partner cheating, your friend replacing you, and your boss secretly hating you
  • You ruminate about your ex even though you know the relationship was flawed
  • The reassurance you get from others either doesn't work or it doesn't last
  • You get particularly hooked on people if they pull away
  • You get really anxious & panicky when you're apart from your person 
  • You have uncontrollable thoughts about not being important or a priority
  • You know you put your worth and happiness in someone else's hands
  • You tend to feel happier and in your power when you are single
  • You crave happiness and peace of mind
  • You have wounds and pain from the past that come up in your current relationships
  • You’re harder on yourself than anyone else 
  • You feel bored or unsure about secure, consistent partners
  • Break-ups are more painful for you than other people
  • you fall into patterns of jealousy and comparison - and you hate that
  • You want to feel confident in yourself
  • You’re ready to break free from this cycle
JOIN BECOMING SECURE

What makes this course different?

You might feel like you’ve read all the books, tried all the techniques, and yet still find yourself caught in the same anxious cycles (overthinking every message, getting stuck in moods, feeling that gut-wrenching fear of rejection, or struggling to quiet the voice that tells you you’re not enough)

If you weren’t taught how to regulate your emotions or feel truly safe in relationships as a child, it makes sense that this feels so hard now. But that doesn’t mean you’re stuck.

This course isn’t just about giving you more information

It’s about bringing together a series of proven skills and techniques and providing the interactive support you need to actually make them work in your real, day-to-day life.

With Carly Ann guiding you through the process, you won’t just learn - you’ll experience real change, rewiring old patterns and taking real steps toward a secure attachment and the love you deserve.

BECOMING SECURE STARTS

This course has helped others:

✔ Have hard conversations with their partner even though they previously had worries of being too much - and felt more secure and understood afterward.
✔ Express their needs without over-explaining -and they felt proud of themselves
✔ Went on dates and enjoyed the moment even though they had the thought “What if they don’t like me?” - and ended up having fun and feeling more at ease.
✔ Stay calm when they thought someone had pulled away - they handled it with confidence instead.
✔ Caught themselves before starting an argument over text, even though they felt triggered and wanted to react
✔ Choose a healthier partner instead of their usual avoidant or unavailable type (and finally experienced a secure, fulfilling relationship)
✔ Stop checking their exes social media
✔ Take a risk at work (they had suffered with imposter syndrome) and got recognitionthat was overdue
✔ Stop comparing themselves to others

 

 

In Becoming Secure, you’ll learn how to understand, interrupt, and reshape your old, outdated patterns!

 

I'M READY

 

When You Sign Up, You Will Get Access to

 

  💎 8 live calls (replay available) - This is an experiential course so each session is practical

💎 Audio recordings so you can listen back easily like a podcast

💎 Dedicated time for deep installation & integration, so you can truly BECOME Secure

💎 Attachment focused Meditations & Visualisations

💎 Exercises to uncover and shift subconscious beliefs

💎 Bonus 'Introduction to Anxious Attachment' Course

💎 Exclusive WhatsApp access to a supportive community (see more below)

The Community Support

 

Becoming secure is all about the power of community. Although it wasn’t something I initially focused on, it always turns out that the biggest healing factor is having a supportive group around you. After over 10 years of running group work, I’ve seen how much it helps to share your experiences, connect with others, and realise you're not alone in this.

This community is a place where you can open up, learn, and grow alongside people who truly understand. With 24/7 chat access, there’s always someone there to listen or offer support when you need it.

SAY NO MORE, I'M IN

MEET YOUR HOST

 

I’m Carly Ann, and I’ve had the honour of helping thousands of women turn their lives around. If you’re struggling with anxious attachment and are ready for a change, know that real, lasting change is within your grasp.

 

In Becoming Secure, we’ll work together to tackle the thoughts that fuel your anxiety. You’ll learn to accept your emotions without letting them control you and develop practical skills to manage intense feelings. Through this process, you’ll gain the confidence and security you deserve in your relationships and within yourself.

 

If you’re eager to break free from the patterns that have been holding you back, I’m here to support you every step of the way. Let’s begin this journey to a more secure and fulfilling life together.

About the Sessions

 

Imagine spending 10 weeks fully focused on YOU - your healing, development, and becoming the secure, confident version of yourself that you’re meant to be.

Right now, love might feel like a constant battle in your mind - the overthinking every text, feeling like you’re too much or not enough, always worrying if people will leave. But in just 8 live sessions, with 2 extra weeks built in for deep integration, you’ll rewire the way you experience relationships.

By the end, you’ll know exactly how to trust yourself, feel safe in love, and finally break free from the anxiety that’s been running your life.

This course isn’t just about learning...it’s about actual change.

Using science-backed psychological methods, we’ll work step by step to unlearn old patterns and give you the tools to feel secure for life.

 

What You’ll Experience in Each Session

 

Phase 1: Breaking Free from What’s Holding You Back

✅ Session 1: Get clear on exactly what’s been keeping you stuck and map out the secure, confident version of you that’s waiting on the other side.

 

Phase 2: Stopping Overthinking & Emotional Spiral

✅ Session 2: Escape the cycle of worry, overthinking, and emotional exhaustion so you can focus on what’s real instead of what-ifs and shoulda woulda couldas.
✅ Session 3: Learn how to step back from painful thoughts instead of getting lost in them, and rewire the deep beliefs making you anxious.
✅ Session 4: Stop reactive behaviours like texting for reassurance or shutting down, learn to pause, sit with emotions, and actually feel better.

⏳ Week off to integrate & practice everything you’ve learned so far.

 

Phase 3: Healing Old Wounds & Feeling Secure in Yourself (Inner child work)

✅ Session 5: Meet your younger self, correct the past, and finally give yourself the love and reassurance you always needed.
✅ Session 6: Learn how to reparent yourself, so you feel safe, loved, and secure, without needing anyone else to make you feel that way.

⏳ Week off to integrate & let this deep healing settle in.

 

Phase 4: Building the Future You Deserve

✅ Session 7: Recognise healthy, secure love, so you stop settling for crumbs and start choosing what actually feels good.
✅ Session 8: Rewire old relationship patterns for good and make a commitment to your future self—the one who no longer settles for anxiety in love.

 

What These Sessions Will Give You:

💡 Self-love: The ability to truly care for yourself, without needing external validation.
💡 Boundaries: Knowing what’s right for you and feeling strong enough to ask for it.
💡 Confidence: Trusting yourself instead of seeking reassurance from others.
💡 Self-worth: Feeling good enough exactly as you are...without changing, proving, or chasing love.

📅 We begin on February 24th. Join live or catch the replay.

✨ Ready to finally step into the love, confidence, and secure attachment you have always deserved? Sign up now

PHASE 1

Values & Subconscious Blocks

The journey begins by helping you get clear on your WHY, plus we uncover the subconscious blocks that are keeping you stuck in anxious patterns. Without this, there is no lasting change.

PHASE 2

Managing Triggers & Anxiety

In this phase, you’ll dive deep into the sources of your anxiety and learn how to manage the triggers that set it off. We’ll explore how negative thoughts, overthinking, and reactive behaviours can sabotage your relationships. You’ll be equipped with practical strategies to calm your mind, break the cycle of overthinking, and respond to triggers in a healthier, more secure way.

PHASE 3

Inner Child Work & Healing the Past

Here, we turn our focus to healing the deeper wounds from your past. You’ll engage in inner child work to address unprocessed emotions and the big reactions they often trigger in your adult relationships. This part of the program is crucial for releasing the pain of the past and creating space for a more secure attachment style to emerge.

PHASE 4

Embodying Secure Attachment & Sustaining Long-Term Relationships

The final phase of the course guides you in embodying the principles of secure attachment. You’ll learn to recognise and cultivate green flags in relationships, understand your needs and how to communicate them effectively, and develop the skills necessary to sustain long-term, healthy relationships. By the end of these sessions, you’ll be well-equipped to maintain a balanced, interdependent connection with your partner while nurturing your own sense of self.

SIGN UP HERE

BUY HERE

 

Including:

 💎 8 live calls (replay available) - This is an experiential course so each session is practical

💎 Audio recordings so you can listen back easily like a podcast

💎 Dedicated time for deep installation & integration, so you can truly BECOME Secure

💎 Attachment focused Meditations & Visualisations

💎 Exercises to uncover and shift subconscious beliefs

💎 Bonus 'Introduction to Anxious Attachment' Course

💎 Exclusive WhatsApp access to a supportive community (see more below)

COURSE

ÂŁ549

Payment Plan Available Here

Join us from February 2025 - go from anxious, worried, and insecure to feeling grounded, confident, & SECURE.

JOIN HERE

COURSE + 1:1

ÂŁ999

Payment Plan Available Here

Get 3x 1 hour private Coaching sessions included.

Join us from February 2025 - go from anxious, worried, and insecure to feeling grounded, confident, & SECURE.

JOIN HERE

P.s. I know it can feel a risk to spend this money on yourself. That's why you have a cooling off period. If after the first two calls, it's not what you thought - you can cancel and get a full refund!

 

It IS possible to earn a secure attachment, self-soothe, and make better choices even if right now it feels like you have tried everything and still keep repeating patterns

 

WHAT MAKES THIS COURSE DIFFERENT FROM THE REST?

 

 

  • Much Lower Price: This course is purposely at a lower price point because evidence suggests anxious attachers can feel worried about money (even if they are OK) and I want to make it accessible this year.

  • Expert Guidance: Your host, Carly Ann, is more than just a coach. With a Psychology degree and extensive experience in mental health, psychotherapy, and cognitive behavioural therapy, she’s worked in world-renowned hospitals, major London prisons, and the NHS.

  • Inside Knowledge: Carly Ann doesn’t hold back. She shares the secrets therapists use, giving you access to what truly works—and why some tools don’t.

  • Specialised Training: In addition to her expertise, Carly Ann has trained in attachment somatic therapy with some of the world’s leading attachment experts.

  • Personal Experience: Carly Ann knows firsthand the struggles of anxious attachment. Having grown up in a troubled home and battled severe attachment issues until her early 30s, she’s walked the path you’re on. She’s transformed her own life from painful, unavailable relationships to feeling secure and starting a family after six years of healing.

  • Personalised Feedback: Before each module, Carly Ann will review your personal experiences and tailor the content to address your unique challenges, ensuring that what you learn is directly applicable to your life.

 

 

BUY HERE

Including:

 💎 8 live calls (replay available) - This is an experiential course so each session is practical

💎 Audio recordings so you can listen back easily like a podcast

💎 Dedicated time for deep installation & integration, so you can truly BECOME Secure

💎 Attachment focused Meditations & Visualisations

💎 Exercises to uncover and shift subconscious beliefs

💎 Bonus 'Introduction to Anxious Attachment' Course

💎 Exclusive WhatsApp access to a supportive community (see more below)

ÂŁ549

Payment Plan Available here

Join us from February 2025 - go from anxious, worried, and insecure to feeling grounded, confident, & SECURE.

JOIN HERE

COURSE + 1:1

ÂŁ999

Payment Plan Available Here

Get 3x 1 hour private Coaching sessions included.

Join us from February 2025 - go from anxious, worried, and insecure to feeling grounded, confident, & SECURE.

JOIN HERE

P.s. I know it can feel a risk to spend this money on yourself. That's why you have a cooling off period. If after the first two calls, it's not what you thought - you can cancel and get a full refund!