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A PRACTICAL COURSE FOR WHEN IT FEELS LIKE YOU'VE READ THE BOOKS, APPLIED THE TOOLS & YOU'RE STILL OVERTHINKING, OBSESSING, & TRAPPED IN PAINFUL PATTERNS
So you can break free from this cycle and build the secure, fulfilling relationships you deserve
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Becoming SecureÂ
 With Carly Ann
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Do you feel like you lack control over your mind, actions, and choices?
Are you living with  involuntary, all-consuming feelings that overwhelm you?
What if you knew the proven, research-backed ways to manage your relationship triggers?
Becoming Secure is a course that uses attachment science to help you develop secure attachment, self-awareness, emotional regulation, and a deeper connection with yourself & others.
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THE 5TH ROUND OF BECOMING SECUREÂ BEGINS FEB 24TH 2025
Please note:
- There are only 10Â spaces up for grabs
- Early Bird Ends on 26th Jan
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Does This Sound Like You?
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- You spend so much time in your head. Overthinking, worrying, replaying conversations, or trying to figure out why someone did (or didnât) do something...itâs exhausting, and youâre ready to break free from the mental loops!
- Youâre tired of basing your worth on other people. Whether itâs a partner, a friend, or a family member, their opinions and actions seem to dictate how you feel about yourself, you've promised yourself you will stop this and now is the time!
- You notice the same patterns popping up. Even though you've read all the books and tried all the things...Whether youâre dating, in a relationship, or single, you see the same triggers, fears, and self-doubt showing up again and again.Â
- You would love to stop shrinking yourself to make other people happy. You want to feel free to show up as you, without fear of being too much, not enough, or losing people.
- You hold yourself back. Whether itâs in relationships, work, or life, you play it small because stepping outside your comfort zone comes at such a cost for you.
- You crave peace of mind. You donât want to spend your days stuck in overthinking, panicking, or analysing every little thing - you want to feel content...happy...and actually enjoy life as itâs happening.
- You feel like youâre always waiting. Waiting for the text, the next step, the reassurance, or just waiting to feel OK again
- Youâre harder on yourself than anyone else could ever be. You do all the work, you even strive for perfection, but it feels like youâre never quite enough, no matter how hard you try.
- You struggle to be kind to yourself. You know you need to work on self-love and self-compassion, but it feels like a concept made for other people, not you.. change feels too hard sometimes
- You want to feel confident in yourself. Youâre done with comparing yourself to others, obsessing over whether youâre âenoughâ and questioning if youâre too much or not enough
- Youâre ready to break free from this cycle. From the overthinking, the triggers, the self-doubt, the endless comparisons, and the need for reassurance, you want to feel calm, confident, and secure.
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Past students of Becoming Secure reached a turning point where enough was enough. They were done with the frustration and ready to commit fully to the next 10 weeks. They stepped into the course driven, determined, and ready to embrace real change.
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"With determination & willingness, people have the power to break free from attachment issues and create real change"
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In Becoming Secure, I support students to understand, interrupt, and reshape common attachment patterns.
Here is what past students are saying about the course:
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This Course Can Help You:
- Feel more confident in your ability to self-soothe and calm yourself down
- Know how to communicate effectively with your anxious & avoidant patters
- Use popular methods through an attachment lens, meaning you will heal rather than exasperate your patterns.
- Reduce your tolerance for unavailable, crumby behaviour.
- Feel more attracted to secure, healthy love without it triggering the ick or boredom.
- Be able to pause before you react, withdraw, communicate, or get angry.
- Be more willing to go through the uncertainty of dating, putting yourself out there, and hard conversations
- Able to feel OK and neutral when you are in a season of life when things are unclear and unsure
- Tap into a state of gratitude, happiness, and expansiveness because you deserve it
- Experience rejection without slipping into a dark hole of despair & anxiety
- Listen and accept âcriticismâ without getting defensive, worried, or angry
- Stay centred when you are away from your partner or you feel like you desperately need someone (and they are not available).
- Improve your self-esteem and manifest a secure relationship with yourself
- Move from insecure to secure attachment, we know it can be done!
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In Becoming Secure, youâll learn how to understand, interrupt, and reshape your attachment style!
Get Community Support
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Becoming secure is all about the power of community. Although it wasnât something I initially focused on, it always turns out that the biggest healing factor is having a supportive group around you. After over 10 years of running group work, Iâve seen how much it helps to share your experiences, connect with others, and realise you're not alone in this.
This community is a place where you can open up, learn, and grow alongside people who truly understand. With 24/7 chat access, thereâs always someone there to listen or offer support when you need it.
Over 10 Weeks, we will journey through four phases.
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I will help you to address the roots of your attachment patterns, and reshape how you approach relationships, using tools and exercises in the session WITH you.
I've divided the 10 Sessions are divided into 4 phases and that works really well...
1ď¸âŁ First, you'll dive deep into your personal blueprint and history. We'll confront and heal old, painful patterns that have held you back, steering you toward more fulfilling and joyful relationships.
2ď¸âŁ Next, we'll tackle the challenges you face in your daily life. From panic and overthinking to behaviors that don't align with who you are, we'll disrupt harmful attachment patterns and replace them with healthier thoughts and habits. Think, this is when we look at triggers, thoughts, big emotions, & acting out of character
3ď¸âŁThen, we do the inner child work. We will use a combination of techniques to help you address hurt parts that are 'stuck' in the past and update how you respond to those old wounds. By connecting with these younger, vulnerable parts of yourself, weâll gently heal the pain theyâve been carrying, allowing you to release outdated coping mechanisms.Â
4ď¸âŁÂ Finally, you'll focus on attracting the life and love you truly desire. You'll gain clarity on sustaining relationships and building a strong inner sense of security. This will empower you to take bold risks and live courageously in all areas of your life.
Crucially, weâll uncover what has held you back from making lasting change until now.
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Healing often happens through connection, not isolation. While our culture promotes a "DIY" approach, imagine the power of learning & healing with 10 weeks of guidance and support tailored to you.
When you sign up, Carly Ann will ask for your direct experience, and the course will then be delivered with YOUR story in mind!
MEET YOUR HOST
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Iâm Carly Ann, and Iâve had the honour of helping thousands of women turn their lives around. If youâre struggling with anxious attachment and are ready for a change, know that real, lasting change is within your grasp.
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In Becoming Secure, weâll work together to tackle the thoughts that fuel your anxiety. Youâll learn to accept your emotions without letting them control you and develop practical skills to manage intense feelings. Through this process, youâll gain the confidence and security you deserve in your relationships and within yourself.
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If youâre eager to break free from the patterns that have been holding you back, Iâm here to support you every step of the way. Letâs begin this journey to a more secure and fulfilling life together.
BECOMING SECURE HELPS YOU:
- Stop Obsessing:Â Stop yourself constantly analysing and replaying scenarios in your head that aren't real and/or helpful
- Manage Intense Panic & Anxiety: Master advanced psychotherapy techniques to effectively manage overwhelming anxiety and regain control.
- Pause Before Reacting to Texts: When you receive a text from a partner or crush, take a moment to breathe and think before responding, instead of reacting impulsively or anxiously
- Create a Response Plan: Develop a specific plan for how to handle situations where you feel insecure or anxious about a relationship
- Reduce Checking Behaviours:Â Interrupt the pattern of constantly checking your phone, social media, and whether or not your partner still loves you
- Limit Unnecessary Closeness: Avoid initiating excessive physical or emotional closeness as a way to cope with anxiety. Instead, focus on healthy and balanced interactions
- Practice Direct Communication: When you feel insecure or anxious, know when it is best to express yourself directly and how to do that without seeming needy
- Get out of a funk: When you get triggered, instead of feeling stuck in a mood and sulking, you can choose to re-engage and limit the issue from getting out of control
- Let Go: Learn to let go & move on when you know you're overreacting
- Have healthy relationships:Â Develop a nervous system and desire for secure, healthy relationships without doubting yourself or feeling the ick
- Engage in Regular Self-Reflection: Allocate time each week to reflect on your attachment patterns and progress, noting any changes or improvements in how you handle anxiety
- Process unprocessed pain & triggers:Â Â Using evidence based intervention to work through unprocessed grief and intense triggers
HOW DOESÂ THIS COURSE WORK?
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This 10-session course is designed specifically for those with anxious attachment, blending coaching and teaching to help you break old pattern and make lasting change.
Unlike traditional courses, this program is highly experiential, meaning you'll actively participate in psychological exercises during each session. These exercises are crafted to be practical and relevant, helping you apply them to your daily life so you can start to feel more secure and confident in your relationships right away.
Throughout the course, you'll learn to become your own coach, equipped with skills backed by the latest evidence-based psychological research. These include:
- CBT interventions to challenge and change the anxious thoughts and beliefs that often hold you back.
- Compassion Focused Therapy to heal those deep, painful wounds from your past and foster a kinder, more compassionate relationship with yourself.
- Imagery work to reconnect with and nurture your inner child, addressing the roots of your attachment style.
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to help you regulate overwhelming emotions and set meaningful, achievable goals for your relationships.
This course isnât just about learning; itâs about experiencing real, lasting change. Every session is designed to give you tools you can immediately apply to your life, helping you move from anxious to secure attachment. If you're ready to stop feeling anxious in your relationships and start building the security you've always wanted, this course is for you.
We being on October 7th, you can attend sessions LIVE or catch up on replay.
Before each session, you will complete a questionnaire which will help us tailor session towards current attendees.
PART 1
Goals & Blocks So Far
Session 1: Clarifying Your Path to Security
The journey begins by helping you get clear on your relationship goals and uncover the emotional blocks that have kept you stuck in anxious patterns. Youâll learn to set realistic, meaningful goals for yourself and your relationships, and identify the subconscious barriers that have prevented you from achieving them. This foundational work sets the stage for lasting change.
PART 2
Managing Triggers & Anxiety
Sessions 2-: Reducing Anxiety and Reactive Behaviours
In this part, youâll dive deep into the sources of your anxiety and learn how to manage the triggers that set it off. Weâll explore how negative thoughts, overthinking, and reactive behaviours can sabotage your relationships. Youâll be equipped with practical strategies to calm your mind, break the cycle of overthinking, and respond to triggers in a healthier, more secure way.
PART 3
Inner Child Work & Healing the Past
Sessions 7-8: Healing Wounds and Processing Big Emotions
Here, we turn our focus to healing the deeper wounds from your past. Youâll engage in inner child work to address unprocessed emotions and the big reactions they often trigger in your adult relationships. This part of the program is crucial for releasing the pain of the past and creating space for a more secure attachment style to emerge.
PART 4
Embodying Secure Attachment & Sustaining Long-Term Relationships
Sessions 9-10: Building and Sustaining Security in Your Long Term Relationships
The final part of the course guides you in embodying the principles of secure attachment. Youâll learn to recognise and cultivate green flags in relationships, understand your needs and how to communicate them effectively, and develop the skills necessary to sustain long-term, healthy relationships. By the end of these sessions, youâll be well-equipped to maintain a balanced, interdependent connection with your partner while nurturing your own sense of self.
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It IS possible to earn a secure attachment, self-soothe, and make better choices even if right now it feels like you have tried everything and still keep repeating patterns
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Are my results guaranteed?
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WHAT MAKES THIS COURSE DIFFERENT FROM THE REST?
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Evidence-Based Approach: This course is grounded in the latest research and proven interventions, ensuring you receive the most effective tools.
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Expert Guidance: Your host, Carly Ann, is more than just a coach. With a Psychology degree and extensive experience in mental health, psychotherapy, and cognitive behavioural therapy, sheâs worked in world-renowned hospitals, major London prisons, and the NHS.
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Inside Knowledge: Carly Ann doesnât hold back. She shares the secrets therapists use, giving you access to what truly worksâand why some tools donât.
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Specialised Training: In addition to her expertise, Carly Ann has trained in attachment somatic therapy with some of the worldâs leading attachment experts.
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Personal Experience: Carly Ann knows firsthand the struggles of anxious attachment. Having grown up in a troubled home and battled severe attachment issues until her early 30s, sheâs walked the path youâre on. Sheâs transformed her own life from painful, unavailable relationships to feeling secure and starting a family after six years of healing.
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Addressing Whatâs Held You Back: Carly Ann understands that you might feel like youâve tried everything. On this course, youâll explore what hasnât worked for you so far and uncover the common reasons people struggle to believe in new thoughts and maintain healthy habits.
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Personalised Feedback: Before each module, Carly Ann will review your personal experiences and tailor the content to address your unique challenges, ensuring that what you learn is directly applicable to your life.
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