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Becoming Secure

 

A therapeutic programme for adults ready to reparent themselves, heal old wounds, and develop the skills to create fulfilling relationships they never had growing up

This is especially for you if you struggle to feel the change, get out of your head, or shake that anxious mood no matter how much you understand what’s wrong.

 

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"Joining Becoming Secure It felt like a brilliant investment in my own mental wellbeing. Dating is hard enough, when you have an anxious attachment style, it can feel impossible. After this programme, I feel like I have the tools to be more successful at dating and I have come away with more determination than I have had in a long time to continue looking for love and hold onto hope of finding the right person"

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"Saying yes to Becoming Secure was my best decision! I very nearly said no but I had tried everything! By far the best results are that I’m less reactive and have more control! I can control my anxiety when I’m waiting for that text or I’m in the unknown - that’s changed me! I’m a lot less self critical and that means I’m happier, which means my relationship has a LOT less drama! couldn’t ask for more! Thank you!"

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Does This Sound Like You?

 

  • You spend so much time worrying, overthinking, & obsessing, your missing out on the present moment
  • You picture your partner cheating, your friend replacing you, and your boss secretly hating you
  • You ruminate about your ex even though you know the relationship was flawed
  • The reassurance you get from others either doesn't work or it doesn't last
  • You get particularly hooked on people if they pull away
  • You get really anxious & panicky when you're apart from your person 
  • You have uncontrollable thoughts about not being important or a priority
  • You know you put your worth and happiness in someone else's hands
  • You tend to feel happier and in your power when you are single
  • You crave happiness and peace of mind
  • You have wounds and pain from the past that come up in your current relationships
  • You’re harder on yourself than anyone else 
  • You feel bored or unsure about secure, consistent partners
  • Break-ups are more painful for you than other people
  • you fall into patterns of jealousy and comparison - and you hate that
  • You want to feel confident in yourself
  • You’re ready to break free from this cycle
APPLY HERE FOR THE NEXT ROUND & JOIN THE WAITLIST

MEET YOUR HOST

 

I’m Carly Ann, and I’ve had the honour of helping thousands of women turn their lives around. If you’re struggling with anxious attachment and are ready for a change, know that real, lasting change is within your grasp.

 

In Becoming Secure, we’ll work together to tackle the thoughts that fuel your anxiety. You’ll learn to accept your emotions without letting them control you and develop practical skills to manage intense feelings. Through this process, you’ll gain the confidence and security you deserve in your relationships and within yourself.

 

If you’re eager to break free from the patterns that have been holding you back, I’m here to support you every step of the way. Let’s begin this journey to a more secure and fulfilling life together.

About the Sessions

 

Imagine spending 10 weeks fully focused on YOU - your healing, development, and becoming the secure, confident version of yourself that you’re meant to be.

Right now, love might feel like a constant battle in your mind - the overthinking every text, feeling like you’re too much or not enough, always worrying if people will leave. But in just 8 live sessions, with 2 extra weeks built in for deep integration, you’ll rewire the way you experience relationships.

By the end, you’ll know exactly how to trust yourself, feel safe in love, and finally break free from the anxiety that’s been running your life.

This course isn’t just about learning...it’s about actual change.

Using science-backed psychological methods, we’ll work step by step to unlearn old patterns and give you the tools to feel secure for life.

 

What You’ll Experience in Each Session

 

Phase 1: Breaking Free from What’s Holding You Back

✅ Session 1: Get clear on exactly what’s been keeping you stuck and map out the secure, confident version of you that’s waiting on the other side.

 

Phase 2: Stopping Overthinking & Emotional Spiral

✅ Session 2: Escape the cycle of worry, overthinking, and emotional exhaustion so you can focus on what’s real instead of what-ifs and shoulda woulda couldas.
✅ Session 3: Learn how to step back from painful thoughts instead of getting lost in them, and rewire the deep beliefs making you anxious.
✅ Session 4: Stop reactive behaviours like texting for reassurance or shutting down, learn to pause, sit with emotions, and actually feel better.

⏳ Week off to integrate & practice everything you’ve learned so far.

 

Phase 3: Healing Old Wounds & Feeling Secure in Yourself (Inner child work)

✅ Session 5: Meet your younger self, correct the past, and finally give yourself the love and reassurance you always needed.
✅ Session 6: Learn how to reparent yourself, so you feel safe, loved, and secure, without needing anyone else to make you feel that way.

⏳ Week off to integrate & let this deep healing settle in.

 

Phase 4: Building the Future You Deserve

✅ Session 7: Recognise healthy, secure love, so you stop settling for crumbs and start choosing what actually feels good.
✅ Session 8: Rewire old relationship patterns for good and make a commitment to your future self—the one who no longer settles for anxiety in love.

 

What These Sessions Will Give You:

💡 Self-love: The ability to truly care for yourself, without needing external validation.
💡 Boundaries: Knowing what’s right for you and feeling strong enough to ask for it.
💡 Confidence: Trusting yourself instead of seeking reassurance from others.
💡 Self-worth: Feeling good enough exactly as you are...without changing, proving, or chasing love.

📅 We begin on February 24th. Join live or catch the replay.

✨ Ready to finally step into the love, confidence, and secure attachment you have always deserved? Sign up now

PHASE 1

Values & Subconscious Blocks

The journey begins by helping you get clear on your WHY, plus we uncover the subconscious blocks that are keeping you stuck in anxious patterns. Without this, there is no lasting change.

PHASE 2

Managing Triggers & Anxiety

In this phase, you’ll dive deep into the sources of your anxiety and learn how to manage the triggers that set it off. We’ll explore how negative thoughts, overthinking, and reactive behaviours can sabotage your relationships. You’ll be equipped with practical strategies to calm your mind, break the cycle of overthinking, and respond to triggers in a healthier, more secure way.

PHASE 3

Inner Child Work & Healing the Past

Here, we turn our focus to healing the deeper wounds from your past. You’ll engage in inner child work to address unprocessed emotions and the big reactions they often trigger in your adult relationships. This part of the program is crucial for releasing the pain of the past and creating space for a more secure attachment style to emerge.

PHASE 4

Embodying Secure Attachment & Sustaining Long-Term Relationships

The final phase of the course guides you in embodying the principles of secure attachment. You’ll learn to recognise and cultivate green flags in relationships, understand your needs and how to communicate them effectively, and develop the skills necessary to sustain long-term, healthy relationships. By the end of these sessions, you’ll be well-equipped to maintain a balanced, interdependent connection with your partner while nurturing your own sense of self.

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